The Goal Post:

Yes, it’s that time of year.  The annual goal setting post for the coming year. NO, it’s not about football – sorry guys.


First a recap of 2013IT SUCKED BIG TIME!  Not the worst year, 2009 still holds that honor for me, but  it came in a close second.

Here’s a quick little recap for my  own sense of justification if nothing else.

  • January – food poisoning, yuck.
  • February – death of  my friend who was fleeing an abusive husband, totaled my Aztec – causing some serious  back injuries that I am still having trouble with.
  • March –  nearly overdosed with pain meds and muscle relaxers to which I  took myself off of. Felt like a victim of the t-virus.  3 Years of my work sabotaged – and  partially lost. Through friends and my  knack for making duplicate files I’ve managed to  rebuild most of it, and what I have to rewrite is better.  So there – * PFFFFFFTTTT* – Mr. Saboteur!
  • April – tested for sleep apnea, scored off the charts and finally got some much-needed sleep.( Yay April – although expensive, the testing virtually saved my life!)
  • May –  this was just a blur as the entire month was taken up with graduation  activities for my brilliant daughter.  Did I mention she won a full scholarship to SEMO?   Yeah, pretty proud of   her.  OH, and went to the doctor where he gave me the shocking news –  I’m fat.  DUH – so that’s what   this is.  I thought I was just stuck in a sumo suit. Silly me!
  • June –  a great month of futility as  I tried to regain the level of fitness I had before  my wreck, and was met with great pain.  Felt like a total loser and failure.
  • July- great improvements were made in  the sleeping, with the CPAP machine.  A stupid  Darth Vader mask at night is a small price for my life ,right?  Not very sexy, but  then again neither is a corpse.  Made  good progress in  my writing, and finally began to feel clear-headed about  matters.
  • August –  ah the bills came in for all the medical expenses that I had incurred, and the bills come due to University housing.  It’s only money right?  I can make more, can’t I?  At this rate I won’t be able to retire until I am  97!
  • September –  my first born child left home,  off to college.  It was an adjustment. Some of the injuries from the wreck have cleared, but the back pain has  become  nauseating at times.
  • October –   X-rays, and more bills.  Well,  I know now why my back hurts but the shock of seeing the medical proof that I  did in fact come very close indeed to losing my life was  a tough pill to swallow.  Injuries to my neck that may eventually lead to immobility – arggh.  A sideways S-curve  to my lower spine below the ribs and before my pelvis that wasn’t there before, an accentuated curvature to my lower back,   the last vertebrae crushed with the little knobby part sheared off and slid backwards and a fractured  pelvis that hadn’t healed.  Yeah, no wonder  I’ve been in pain.  And to top it all off you know x-rays cost a lot of money  – which my spouse was  quick to point out to me.   Yeah, not amused with him at all.
  • November –  family drama, physical therapy, emotional wringer, and  trying to function through the pain.
  • December –  I must admit the pain has diminished over the last few weeks – just in time to get hit with the flu, after a nice round of heartbreak.

Ah, but life goes on and the New Year approaches.  I’m really pulling for a better year this year. Now, y’all know I am not  typically a whiner. Sometimes life throws some  hard things your way. I’ve not posted much this year because I couldn’t find my voice to be positive a lot of times.  I gave in to the self-pity,  to the despair, and even  depression at times.  So sue me – I’m only human.

I know, y’all thought I was a goddess supreme.  Only in my fantasies sadly.  BUT, I didn’t quit.  I haven’t  quit and I won’t quit!  I am a fighter.  History is written by the victors and I intend to win!

This year has kicked my butt ten ways to Sunday, but I’m  getting up swinging.  I’m back on my feet and more determined than ever.

I’ve got plans and dreams that  no one can take from me, not fate nor any person – yeah I’m talking to you Mr. Saboteur.  It’s funny how dream killers are never content to just  let their own dreams die, they  try to destroy other people’s dreams as well.  Well Ellie is back in town and she’s going to KICK ASS!

I’ve got a lot of time to make up for and this next year is a milestone for me.  I’m not where I  intended to be and that ticks me off.  My coach assures me I’ve made progress, but I still  intend to push harder, longer, stronger, better than before.  Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and  the seven hells would not contain the fire within the woman pushed  to her limits.  I’m working on my goal list  now, it’s not complete. 50 is a big number.  It’s  sort of  the last chance workout to get this  thing right.  A spine of steel trumps a wish bone any day!

Are you working on your goals list?  Do you know what you want to accomplish in the coming year?  Or are you just going to float by day-to-day and let life pass you by?  Failure to plan is planning to fail.  I don’t work well without goals.  I tend to wander aimlessly down the path  tralala and willy nilly.  I intend to be focused and on target.  It might get a little intense at times but  so  was the pain  over this past year.  If I can survive that –  this should be a piece of cake.

Life is not a journey to the grave with the  intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “WOW, What a RIDE!”


I’m determined, how about you? Write on my friends – and have a plan!

10 comments on “The Goal Post:

  1. Wow, what a powerful post. I firmly believe that you will accomplish all you set out to do. You are one of the strongest women it has been my pleasure to meet and call friend. You go gurl! ❤


  2. I hadn’t realized you were struggling with so many health issues, but as I was battling prenatal nausea for nearly 40 weeks, I might not have been paying much attention. I’m sorry to hear how awful your year’s been, but I’m so glad to hear that you’re remaining determined. That’s half the battle! Keep up the good work.

    Also, with your doctor’s permission of course, you might consider getting into a gentle/flow yoga class to help minimize the effects the S-curve in your spine is having on you. Some people even claim that yoga’s cured their scoliosis. I know I’ve had one student say that yoga took away all his HIIT- and military-induced back pain. I hope you continue to make progress in a pain-free direction 🙂


    • Thank you for your concern. I honestly don’t think anyone realized the health issues I was dealing with because I was rather mum about it. I wasn’t happy with the fact that I couldn’t do what i was used to doing and I didn’t share the information with more than a handful of those closest to me.
      Now that the doctor has released me to get back on a regular workout routine – slowly of course, she did recommend that I try some yoga.
      I take it the prenatal nausea has gone away since you mentioned 40 weeks worth, congratulations! Girl or boy? or multiples? One plug here for breast feeding – that was the fastest I ever lost weight was while I was nursing.


      • It was a girl, thanks, and yes, I’m breastfeeding exclusively! Thanks! I hope all goes well on your path to recovery 🙂


  3. By the way Meredith Rose Ashe – congratulations on your daughter, and I have been doing the yoga! It is helping but to do the work on the floor is quite difficult for me.


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