Ever have someone that comes into your life in a “suddenly” way? Like when our children are born – they instantly rock our world like nobody ever can. We are willing to lay down our lives for these helpless babies. We are willing to move heaven and earth to make their world a better place.
No one can ever compare to your children or spouse. That’s not what this is about. What this is about are those people that “POP” into your lives suddenly and you connect like you were old high school pals. It seems a strange twist of fate that you live so far apart because you’d like to be able to hang out with them, sit down for a coffee, and laugh together in person. Or maybe walk down the beach to that pier, ogling the pelicans, hearing the waves crash over the sand. Misty, Cathy, Vicki, Emily, Desiree’, Stacey, Dana – and a dozen others – this one is for you.
With the negative comments that are a constant barrage against us, I have a few bright lights to shine on social media.
Yes, I’ll admit that some of the negatives are very real – it does become a black hole of time consumption if you let it.
Yes, there are trolls out there that are eager to snare naive people for various reasons.
Yes, there are a lot of breakfast posts, whining and griping, and selfies posted.
However, today is not the day for negative vibes. Today I am going to address something that I know many don’t believe is a real phenomenon.
- Connecting with kindred spirits.
I have made friends with some amazing people on social media. A couple of my soul sisters are so similar, it’s eerie. Through life experiences we connect on a level beyond any that I have with blood relations. We connect on topics that I can’t discuss with “real-life” friends. Topics that I can’t discuss with family.
To be perfectly honest – some of my online friends are more supportive and encouraging than those in my physical realm. Likewise, I encourage and support my cybersisters and brothers. I consider myself lucky indeed to have them in my life.
Who decides what “real-life” is? When you can discuss any topic with someone who happens to live 200 miles a way or 2000, is it any different from talking with a relative or high school buddy over the airwaves? Don’t we all have new friends that come into our lives?
- A great community for career discussion.
I found this to be true in the writing community, not in the mortgage industry. In the mortgage industry – it’s cut throat every man or woman for themselves. In the writing community though there are many groups – some good some bad, some distracting – that you can participate in. With my good online friends we can discuss many aspects of the trade:
- World building
- time lines
- character development
- story and continuity
- favorite brands of coffee
Where else but in a group of like-minded writers can a gal discuss hot males that inspire our latest leading man, romance, murder, and what’s for dinner all in the same discussion?
I know you all may find that disturbing but when you are writing a story – sometimes fictional characters fall in love, sometimes they get into dangerous situations, and sometimes those characters are murdered. Sometimes more sinister things are at work than the guy in the office that is backstabbing. Sometimes, the world as we know it pales in comparison to a parallel dimension.
My writerly friends know these things. If I discussed these things with family, they may try to have me committed.
Regardless of the story arc, plot twist or latest recipe – the point is that I value my online friends just as much as my ‘in person’ friends. Sometimes these online friends brighten my day when real life drags me down. The day-to-day stuff wears on us, breaks our back with the weight of responsibility, burdens our heart with the latest family crisis, ongoing illnesses, and drama that is our life.
So in honor of my online friends that I have never met in person but have connected to just like we were sitting around the breakfast table sharing our coffee in person, Here’s to you fine ladies! * Raises coffee mug*
I encourage my readers to express gratitude to the cyber friends in your life. Let them know that you value their connection.
Now go! Express yourself!
Write on my friends, write on!