First off – I know you are waiting for a full report from Penned Con. It’s coming, but I want to give it the full attention it deserves. I am assessing my notes, making some new notes,evaluating the event, and processing a whirlwind couple of days. I promise to give my full report soon. Just not today.
Today, I am asking something of my readers. Something that I wouldn’t normally ask. Tonight I begin a journey of exploration into my psyche as part of a counseling course, to deal with root issues in my life that stem from abuse, rejection, living with an alcoholic parent, living with a self-absorbed parent, and a variety of other issues that a lifetime of living has brought.
I’ve not made any secrets about my past, about the skeletons in my closet. I’ve not candy coated or diluted much of anything. NO, I haven’t divulged nitty-gritty details, this isn’t a horror story. I am not blaming anyone else for my problems. They may have begun way back there but I have been a responsible adult for some time now and my decisions are my own. My reactions to things are my own. Some of those reactions have become a real issue in my relationship with my husband. He’s been an absolute amazing guy and if there is anything I can do to fix me, I will. I have caused him a tremendous amount of pain, and I feel horrible for the pain that I have caused.
So, I start this class tonight and for the next 12 weeks. It is going to be intense. It is going to be emotional. It is going to force me to deal with issues that I’ve pushed under the rug for years. I have to face my demons full on. That’s where you, my readers come in. Patience, hang in there with me, and maybe a word of encouragement now and again by leaving a comment.
Today, before the first counseling session – which lasted an hour and a half – I started an online course that I have to pass in order to renew my mortgage license. Last several years when I took the course, I’ve passed with a 92 to 100%. You can imagine my shock when after the first section of the course I failed that module with a 62%. Yeah, my mojo is definitely off. My ability to focus has dropped off the bottom of the chart and still plummeting.
I have deadlines looming for work projects, the first of which is passing this course to renew my license by a deadline that has always been December 31, but has been moved up to October 1. Nothing like a little extra pressure, right? I have a technical writing gig that the deadline has been extended for two weeks because of a variety of things on my end and theirs. Thank goodness they gave me an extension.
Family issues, financial burdens, emotional baggage all combined to a cumulative of off the chart stress.
So, hang with me please. I haven’t completely given up and I haven’t lost very last brain cell. It’s just a stressful time, and I have to make some hard choices about self-evaluation. Cyberhugs accepted! Sometimes you just have to yell: ” Jane! Stop this crazy thing!” and get off for a while.
How do you handle stress? How do you face your demons, or do you? Have you ever sought counseling for your issues? Do you view people who seek counseling as broken? Damaged?
That’s it in a nutshell. I shall follow-up soon with a full report on Penned Con. It was an awesome 2 days that opened my eyes to numerous possibilities and shattered a few ideologies I had built up in my mind. But life presses in and demands my full attention in other areas.
So while I am undergoing psycho-analysis, and battling demons – write on and remember to tune back in for Penned Con updates soon.
*Hugs* Stress is hard to deal with in any situation, but you have an abundance of it. I deal with mine in various ways depending on the degree of it. I’ve gone to counseling many times. For the death of my father, for being raped, and other things. I don’t think that makes us damaged or broken. Hang in there, Ellie. You know you can talk to me if you need it.
Thanks for the support, I always know that you fine ladies have my back! It’s a scary step. I’ve dealt with some of this stuff before, but find that there are underlying issues that are causing me some trouble.
I was basically cuiruos about if you ever considered switching the design of your web site? It is well written; I love what you have got to state. But maybe you could add a a bit more in the way of written content so people can connect with it better. You have got an awful lot of wording for only having one or two photos. Maybe you can space it out better?
Haven’t considered swithcing my desgin, I did that shortly after I started and I am happy with it how it is for now. Doesn’t mean I won’t change it later, after all I am a woman and I do have the perogative to change my mind. You state it is well written then say I could add a bit more in the way of written content – hello??? Have you read my blog??? More written content? Wow, didn’t see that one coming. Then you say I have too much wording for only one or two photos – again, have you read my blog???
My shoulder is always available. Remember that it takes two to make, as well as fudge up, a marriage. *hugs*
I am always available too. Hang in there babe you got lots of arms holding you up.