Today is the 52-week MFRW blog challenge, Week 37- Five Ways to Win My Heart
Hmmm, at first I thought – what would it take to win my heart, but then I remembered a few weeks back, the ‘open/shut door’ fiasco. I think I’ll address both!
Hello, everyone! Glad you could stop by! I know I’ve missed the last couple of prompts, but I have good reasons. No, really I do! Doctors appointments and making final revisions on Roxy!
Five Ways to Win My Heart
- Bring me coffee – My husband follows a very strict Christian regime with the coffee, following Biblical instruction – He Brews. Not only does he brew the coffee, but on the weekends he brings me my first cup, made just like I like it! He scores some serious man points here!
- HE Gets Me – Understand me, get my jokes, my sense of humor, sarcasm, understand my point of view. It’s not even necessary to agree with me, just GET me. My husband gets me. He laughs at my corny jokes, he gets my quirky humor, and sometimes off-color humor as well. He gets it when I am upset, although often he wants to fix it even though I just need him to listen and understand why I am upset. More man points!
- Pens – Every year for Christmas Santa’s helper AKA Hubster sneaks a few pens or a lot of pens into my stocking or in a box beneath the tree. This past year, he gave me a giant box of gel pens to use for my adult coloring books. My favorite uni-ball pens find their way into my stocking. He brings home novelty pens from salesmen at work. It’s amazing how many interesting pens salesmen use in the IT world! My name is Ellie, and I have a pen habit. Supplying my habit is a fast track to winning my heart! Exponential man points!
- Notice my weight loss – OK, this one is tricky. Living with a person that you see day in and day out, it’s often difficult to notice subtle changes. A quick way to a fight comes from comments that I need to START losing weight. I go from zero to ballistic in .03 seconds. Seriously, I have been denying myself so many things, have given up many other things, have changed my diet drastically, have been exercising a little more each week, I know I still have a long way to go, but DANG IT – lie if you have to, acknowledge something. My skin looks clearer and not ashen, my shirts fit better, my shorts have been baggy – but those are things that I tend to be the only one to notice. Some day, he will notice. It will probably be after someone else comments, but eventually . . . I hope. No points in a long, long time.
- Enjoy being with me – It doesn’t matter what we do or if we are doing nothing. Someone who wants to spend time with me earns instant points. In our cyber age, it’s rare to still have freinds that will spend real life time with you. Face to face time, where you can actually engage in a relationship. It’s one thing to be freinds it’s another to want to spend time with an individual. The fact that the hubster chooses to spend his time with me completely wins my heart!
How a Romance Author Wins My Heart
- Beleivable characters – I need a heroine that I can relate to. I need to connect to her, put myself in her shoes. The hero has to be relatable as well. I don’t get into those billionaire books. The likelihood of some uber rich guy coming into my middle class American world is beyond my suspension of disbelief.
- Nasty villain – Give me an antagonist I can hate, which also causes me to root for the heroine that much more. He doesn’t have to be nasty in the sense of vile or perverse, but nasty as in mean and ruthless. The kind of person that makes you hope they get their come-uppance.
- Action – Action draws the reader forward, narrative can bog down the story. I want a story that will keep me turning the pages. I’ve read enough romance books to know the formulaic approach, and if the author can surprise me, I will read them again!
- Cliffhanger – there needs to be at least one low point that leaves you hanging, makes you wonder if the heroine will make it or ever achieve their happily ever after. This is romance of course, so we know the author isn’t going to kill the Main character, but when an author makes you wonder if they are bucking the system, it’s very gratifying.
- The Denoument – when all the ends are tidied up at the end and you are not left wondering, but what happened to that guy that was in the hospital on life support? What happened to her dog? On page 145 her dog was lost after the tornado, then on page 187 she searches the animal shelter, then she gets the happily ever after with the hero, but the dog is forgotten. Did she give up on the dog? Did someone adopt the dog? I know, it seems like a petty thing, but things like this, the author used a certain trope or character to fill space, and tell the story from point D to E, and by the conclusion at K, there is never another mention of it. This is one of those things where I would say tell me not show me. Because if the author is trying to show that she was heartbroken, then distracted by the guy, then that makes her seem a crappy pet owner and it maight be best if she never have another pet. Do you get what I am saying? It doesn’t necessarily have to be the pet. I’ve seen it with a neighbor, a coworker, where it is just assumed that since they don’t matter to the final outcomoe of the story, they aren’t mentioned again.
What about you? What does it take to win your heart in person or in a book? Share your thoughts below.
Here are the links for other authors in this blog hop sharing their five points.
Here are some other posts in this series from yours truly:
- Raindrops on Roses
- They’ll Survive – I Guess
- Binge Watching #MFRWauthor
- Thank God for Grace in Editing!
- #MFRW Best Friends
- Crafty Author #MFRWauthor
- Musical Mayhem #MFRWauthor
- A Rose by Any Other Name . . . #MFRWauthor
- I’ll take What is Purple Prose for 50 Alex #MFRWauthor
- Ellie’s Guilty Pleasures #MFRWauthor
- How Do You Do That? #MFRW
There are more but I don’t have the links done yet. I will eventually, when I get to it.
Write on my friends, write on!