In the past, I would have been quite upset.
In the past, I would have been ten times bent out of shape because my plans were derailed.
In the past, . . . well you get the idea. I make plans, they get trashed. You’d think I would get used to it by now, but no.
I can’t afford to get upset over this anymore, it’s not worth it. I can choose to go with the flow, adapt, overcome, and change directions on the fly. Well, sort of.
OK, so maybe I don’t adapt on the fly. There are a few kinks and jagged edges before I accept the inevitable. Alright, in some cases I am downright pouty that my plans were trashed. Like my plans for January – trashed. I haven’t been in the “Oh well” frame of mind. I’ve been in the ‘toddler kicking and screaming mentally’ stage. Hey, I know my truth and at least I’m honest about it!
Real mature, I know. I need to adapt a more French “C’est le Vie” approach, or the “que sera sera” or a more Bohemian -“Oh well.” attitude.
Changing your habits and behavior is a difficult thing and sometimes those learned responses that are programmed into the rabbit tracks of our brains, you know the automatic responses, still show up even when you think you’ve kicked it. It’s the same type of thing that triggers PTSD, seriously it’s the same brain parts. I know y’all don’t want to talk about the amygdala and the reticular formation so we will move on.
For example, I had laid out a plan for my blog with themed days again. Mojo Monday with my motivational posts to stir myself and others up! Tasty Tuesday where I will share new tasty Cancer friendly meals. I was undecided on Wednesdays and Thursdays, Fridays would be the MFRW posts, and Sunday to get back to the WeWriWa snippets.
Then . . . LIFE HAPPENS. First, it was the flu, even after getting a flu shot. Then the therapy appointments and doctor appointments. Then, family in the hospital, then funerals, then more people in the hospital, then the big appointments with the oncologist. (We’ll address that at a later time when I’ve processed things fully and can be calm.)
All of this has left me with little left to give out, feeling exhausted and drained emotionally and physically. Not that y’all aren’t important to me, because I’ve told y’all before, I get super excited when I get a new follower, or someone leaves a comment. It really is a high point in my day! But there comes a time when there are other life matters that take priority over what I want, over a self-imposed deadline that only really matters to me.
Seeing a loved one in the hospital in pain, or the nerve-wracking waiting for them to be out of surgery. This is when you have to accept the moment, be in the moment and realize that the most important parts of our lives are the friends and family we love and that love us.
You are only truly blessed when you love and are loved.
I think this is one of the really sad part of our current society, people will spend hours on social media, yet isolate themselves from the people who care about them.
Do yourself a favor. Put down your phone, get off your tablet and engage with someone. Call your mom, ask her what’s for dinner and tell her how much you appreciate her. Call your sister you haven’t seen or talked to in weeks or months. Go visit your kids and grandkids! Life is too short.
We need to embrace the moments of joy that life offers. Make part of this year’s goals be spending real time with friends and families and living life.
I have a lot more I’d like to say, but I need to go to the hospital to visit my sister. The “tyranny of the should haves” is really working overtime on me and I don’t want to add to it.
Go! Live! Laugh! Enjoy life. Have dinner with someone you love! Visit a friend or at least call. That’s what our phones are really for.
Write on my friends, write on!